Temper in a fight

I do not have a problem to go in between fights. If somebody is fighting, I can intervene. Usually I do not do much more than step between. Usually that is the only thing needed.

That is not true for all situations.

Sometimes the parties do not care that somebody comes between. And during those times I could get hurt.

As my father said once, I am like my mother. When I was created, the fear was forgotten.

Last time I was in a fight, or in-between a fight, I did get hurt. I realize it was more than I could handle. But I wasn't afraid. Usually when everything is over and the adrenalin wears off I start shaking, it did not happen.

I am not proud, I don't regret it, I am not happy about it, I am not sad about it, but if I could go back in time, I would not do it differently. Oh yeah, I know what I could do differently, I will not go into details, but I know what I should have done to not get hurt. But that was so unpredictable, I would probably do the same next time anyway.

Still, I am told I can not do the same in another country, the country in my heart. And I will trust the person who told me that, cause he knows the temper of the people there better than I do, and even though the temper in these cold latitudes are lower, we can still get such a hot temper that we end up hurting each other.

I know! I have that temper in me, but I don't hurt anything that is alive. My worst lost of temper was when I was about 18 years, and the victim was my sister. She made me so angry I saw red! I have never in my life, before or after, been that angry. I did not think, I picked up a shoe (the thing closest to me), I pulled my arm back and for a split second I realized what I was doing and as I threw the shoe at her I fixed the throw so that it did not hit her, but at the couch where she was sitting.

I saw the fear in her eyes, I saw the chocked faces of my parents, but I did not care. I went to my room. She did apologize for what she did to make me that furious, and I leaned that I have to keep my head clear and never let the red take over. And yes of course, my parents came talking to me about my behavior.

So I'd say no, it is not different in different countries. But of course, if it is people with higher temper, of course the fights will be more higher.